In lieu of getting aggravated about the results of this election, I feel like we just need to take a second and realize that you do not have to fool with these people and the ignorance that they speak. You are not obligated to let your words fall on deaf ears. You are not required to teach lessons, make Facebook comments, and argue at your job. Why? Because you do not have to allow these people into your space to jack up your mood.
Seriously, guys. You have your own life. You have got to stop letting other people tell you how to feel and put yourself first. Get your self-care on.
- They don’t know your life, they don’t know your views.
- Nobody can do YOU like you can. Don’t let them fool you.
- You’re the king/queen of your domain. You make the rules because you know what’s best.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all about help and resources and connectivity between peeps, and different social views. The issue arises when said peeps get in your space with their ignorance and are not corrected.
Don’t let other people tell you what you want.
I’m a total people pleaser, so this was something that I had learn the hard way (by the hard way I mean tears and angry balled up fists). Family, friends, workplace, etc. it didn’t matter. I was taking everyone’s advice and input, trying not to ruffle any feathers and by doing this I was letting anything and everything in my space.
What’s your space? Your physical space, mental space, emotional space, professional space, personal space.
After some time I realized I had to start to be a grown up because you can’t find any serendipities when you’re letting everyone get into your head. After all, half the time the “advice” from said peeps involves telling you what not to do/feel or better yet, how to do it their way.
I had to figure out for myself that I’m upset because I’m allowing it. By allowing foolishness into my space, by allowing myself to be aggravating by stuck-in-their-own-way people because I hadn’t quite mastered the “meaningful no,” I was getting myself upset and worked up for no reason. I let all of this in, then proceeded to cry and whine about what that person did or said to me when in reality, I did it to myself. The lesson? Friends, be selective about what/who you allow in your space.
- Be. assertive. B-E assertive : figure out what you want, and how you’re going to get it. If anyone misconstrues your what you mean, let them know. Don’t just go with the flow.
- Be. real. B-E real. You are not the butcher, the baker, or the candlestick maker. You are you. Your job is not to cut things into bite sized pieces, sugarcoat, or light a fire under anybody. Be real with your words always by saying what you mean, and meaning what you say.
- Be. honest. B-E honest. With yourself, with the world, with ya friends. ya co-workers, and your mom. You’re a fully functioning adult. Don’t allow others to paint your picture for you and you nod your head along like a lapdog. Pick up your paintbrush and get it poppin’.
You can’t pour from an empty cup. Put yourself first.
Taking care of yourself, your wants, your views and your dreams should be the top priority. Anything and everything do not need to infiltrate your space. Selectivity is key to sanity, remember that. And honestly, stay off of Facebook for a few days.
xo | nyema