Courtesy of Urban Dictionary I bring you a fabulous definition of the phrase Stay in Your Lane
Stay in Your Lanemind your own business; keep moving straight ahead and don’t veer over into my personal affairs“I don’t need you telling me how to raise my child, so why don’t you just stay in your lane, okay?”
I know I’m not the only one either. At your job or at some family reunion I know you all have told somebody or somebody’s mama (maybe mumbled it to her) to stay in their lane. This is fine! It’s cool. Really. Because you travel farther when no one’s in your way distracting you.
Now you know I always have a challenge, so my real question is are you staying in your own lane?
Of course, I am, Ny! I don’t have time to swerve to anyone else’s. I mind my business. I am NOT worried about anybody else and what they’re doing.
I’m going to be real with you real quick. This journey with teaching and blogging has given me some serious “Stay in Your Lane” checks. What do I mean? I mean I have been in and out everyone else’s lane constantly. Like on a daily basis. Like an unhealthy amount every hour. My twenty-two-year-old self is always comparing where my little car is to where someone else’s car is.
Man, her blog is so successful. What am I doing wrong?
Man, that teacher walks around her classroom like as if the kids aren’t killing her, how does she do that? WHY can’t I do that?!
You said how many of his kids passed the EOG this year? I’ll go hide under my blankets now. Ha.
Or my favorite this past school year: why am I the only one having a breakdown daily?
I do this so often. Social media does not make it easier either. Naturally, everyone wants to post their success. They want to share with the world that they poppin’, or that they’re on vacation, or that their new business is doing so successful. Don’t get me wrong, all of these people deserve to celebrate and thank God for their blessings. There’s no reason not to, but there was something I had to realize for me.
A lot of the time I was comparing my start to someone’s middle.
Others hardly see the struggle. The behind the scenes is always, well, behind the scenes. Of course, the teacher that’s been teaching for 5 years is going to be handling things better than me. Of course, a blogger who’s being doing this for over a year is going to have more subscribers or shares. It’s because they are in a whole different chapter than I am.
The assumption is always made that these successful people woke up on top of the world and that “I can do that” until you actually do it and realize that you aren’t them, and that they had to go through several chapters or even books to get where they’re at. My twenty-two-year-old tail still has time to get it wrong, and get it wrong, and get it wrong, and then finally get it right. Then maybe someone will look at me saying, how did she do that?
Long story short in my journey towards serendipity I needed to learn this: don’t wait beside your window peering into someone else’s lane, but look forward and figure out how you are going to press forward to be in the position you want to be.
This week’s challenge? Don’t compare your start to someone’s middle. Or even your middle to someone’s end.
Peace & Love,